Now you like a girl and she is a Filipina, what do you do next?
You wanted to make the first move by asking her for a date. Ooops! But you just can’t ask her for a date without getting to know her first.
Everything starts from exchanging pleasantries and good initial conversation. You must be cool. No aggressiveness please. Any sign of arrogance seen by a Filipina is a total turn-off.
Throw your arrogance to the ocean and never to a Filipino woman.
When you ask her for a date, either you:
1) Ask her for a casual lunch out (if you are mid 20’s and 30’s), an afternoon coffee and pastry date (if both of you are teenagers), and a formal dinner (if both of you are adults)
2) Give her “something” (as a sweet gesture and gratitude for saying “Yes” to you to go on a date). It could be flowers, chocolates, cute novelty items that you recently saw in the mall. Giving her a gift certificate, movie passes or concert tickets (good for two) are also great ideas so you can (subtly) signify your intent of getting another date with her again, you get what I mean guys.. 😉
3) Ok, below are the list of possible tokens depending on the age of the Filipina woman and your age as a man.
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Over Lunch
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Over Coffee Time
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Over Dinner
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For the Family
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Teenagers 15 – 20s
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Chocolates, pastel color flowers
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Chocolates, Cute Notebook or Notepads
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One rose, everyday cologne, Stuffed Toy
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Pastries or a Cake
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Mid 20s – 30s
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Novelty items like a cute character keychain, cellphone case, scarf
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Datebook or Planner with cute ball pen, Starbucks Gift Certificate, Movie Pass
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Dainty Flowers, Victoria Secret cologne, Branded perfume, Concert Tickets
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Specialty Cake and a Huge Pizza
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Adults 30s and above
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Specialty chocolates, a bouquet of flowers, Gift Certificate to a Spa or Salon (that can be used on the same day – an instant afternoon date follows)
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Tickets to a Musical or a Stage Play to be used on that night (a surprise date night immediately follows), a Gift Certificate to her favorite Coffee Shop or Pastry Shop
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Either 3 red roses or a bouquet of Flowers, Branded Perfume, a designer shoes Gift Certificate, or a Gift Certificate to her favorite boutique, a pair of Earrings
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Ice Cream Cake, Breads and Pastries and a Huge Pizza with at least 2 Big Bottles of Grape Juice or a bottle of Red Wine
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The above are suggested things you can give her and her family during courtship. It makes a big difference if your gift comes on a right time and on the right budget. When you give her things, please do not forget to include her family in your budget. Why? …because that is the “modern-day-dowry” for Filipinos. But why give her family the above suggested things? …because Filipino families are fond of convening together; and having food around (good for sharing) is what makes them happy. Making Filipino family members happy is a plus point for you guys. In Filipino Language or Tagalog, it is called “pogi points” or “handsome/mansome points” in colloquial terms.
Filipino woman seeks approval from her family members and friends when she goes for a relationship; more so, before she steps into any engagement for marriage. If she does not have the approval of her family and friends, she won’t be happy during your wedding (and married life!) even if she loves you that much! Silently she would be smiling at the wedding, but deep inside her, her heart is getting small pinches of pain – because her family is not very pleased of you. Guys! Filipinas are really loving, polite women. They will love you forever. They will be loyal to you. They will be the most caring spouse and doting mothers to your children. “Till death do us part”…but only, if she is well pleased…because her family is well pleased.
Now, that is the family-factor side. Let’s talk about her and her alone. Filipinas love to be pleased, as I said. So here is the list on how you can really please her to make her fall for you.
1. Talk to her nicely – Filipinas hate aggressive and harsh men. No foul words. No cursing. No shouting.
2. Be patient with her – Filipinas will make you wait…accept that! That is a part of the “test” Filipinas are giving to their men.
3. Be generous to her – Filipinas do not like frugal men. Hey, we don’t ask for a “formal” dowry! “Generosity” for us is the modern-day-dowry. A modern-day-dowry or equivalent is expected by her and her family – something to signify a man’s sincere intention towards his lady.
4. Say nice words to her like “I like your smile” “I like the way you walk” “I like it when you’re being honest” (Please say only those thing that you really mean, ok?)
5. Help her – be a gentleman. Carry her things. Open doors for her. Offer to help her in her house chores – this is the best!…as this has been the original Spanish tradition in which Filipinas were used. Men would bring them water from the well to the kitchen, men would chop woods for their wood fire cooking during the Spanish times. Modern day chores would be: Fix her fluorescent lamps, plugs, sockets, P-traps, toilet bowl flusher, faucets, doorknobs, locks, bag zippers, cellphone configurations, PC set-up, software applications, etc.
6. Protect her – make her walk at the safer side of the sidewalk, likewise while crossing the street.
7. Surprise her – bring her to a place she has not seen or been yet. Give her something she really likes.
8. Be sweet to her – smile to her and pour water or wine in her goblet or wine glass. Hold her arms or hands when she goes up or down the stairs. Assist her on her bag when she is busy looking for something inside her bag. Wipe her lips for any milk moustache. Filipinas are naturally “malambing” women. Malambing means “sweet, caring, soft spoken and full of charm in her actions”.
9. Be thoughtful to her – remember to text her even if you are busy studying or working and just let her know that you remembered her. You can message her saying, “I just remembered the moment when we were together…”
10. Be grateful – thank her for the “time” / “special moments” / her kindness / her sweetness / her thoughtfulness / etc…Just always be grateful.
Isn’t that exciting…I am already giving you lots of things to do… what else can you add? 😀
When a man has fulfilled (or has fully shown) and proved to a Filipina those 10 things mentioned above, Filipinas know how to reciprocate (Remember that) …and they reciprocate more!
Additional tip:
Being polite by saying “PO” and “OPO” to their elders for that matter is already “something”. Po and Opo when used to speaking to Filipina parents (or to any Filipino elderly), are 2 most endearing words in which any man of any nationality can use to bring any Filipina’s heart closer to him.
Example : (Man to a Filipina’s Parents) “How are you po?” “I hope I can visit your daughter again po”. “Thank you po.”
Well, these are just some of the things any man should consider in courting a Filipina.
Happy Courting Guys!…and wishing you all the best!
Tulip –<3
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